Loneliness - The Unheeded Mental Health Pandemic

Loneliness is totally different than being alone. It is a feeling of vacuum & emptiness inside and When we feel, we need somebody else to fill that gap and to make us feel okay. We can feel alone in the crowd, even with our spouse, parents, siblings, and other friends and family. Because loneliness is about having a dearth of or sometimes even absence of emotional connection not physical presence. It has no relation to how many friends we have or what our social life looks like in the real-world or digital world. It also affects our physical and mental health like it can cause depression, stress, etc. Whereas being alone is when you are okay with being yourself and there is a sense of peace within yourself.

 Let's try to see What are the main cause of it?

Nowadays, it’s very easy to spend your whole day without interacting with any human. We do WhatsApp and social media to express ourselves  like saying  “I love you,” “happy birthday,” "miss you"  etc. Everybody is so much into their mobile phone like children are into games, few others are into Netflix and remaining are into WhatsApp and Instagram. List is endless we have countless things to which can keep us indulge 24*7 into our devices and totally divert us from the real world around us. When someone even tries to start a conversation, other people started feeling like getting disturbed.

People feel happy when they have more followers on Instagram, more number of friends on Facebook etc. But the reality is that it is the virtual world. When they want to share their emotions then as human being they need real people and that time they find a scarcity of emotional connection around them. Its high time to understand that likes on social media will never be able to replace the love and connection with people and nature.

It's not because of the lack of people but because of a lack of conversation with real people. No doubt technology is a blessing for all of us, it is helping us to get connected throughout the world and in fact now due to this Covid situation, most of the people know how it is helping to connect with people when almost the whole world is in lockdown state. But the same technology turning into a curse to those who literally becoming a slave to it and totally disconnected to the real world which leads to emotional disconnection in our own relationships.

Second most common reason is, in earlier days we could see the more joint families than now.  When you are around with more people you will have more conversations, more conversations lead to more emotional connections but nowadays 90 percent of the people live in a nuclear family because almost everybody is trying to get the materialistic success without thinking about emotional fulfillment and finally when you don't feel emotionally connected to anyone then loneliness become the by-product of it.

 There are many more reasons for loneliness but now let's discuss possible solutions to it.

 Education Minister of Delhi, Mr. Manish Sisodia started happiness classes ( no political agenda here ) in schools, we need more programs like this not only in school but on every single layer of society to fight and avoid loneliness. why not we should think about starting a happiness hour ( on weekends or any other day) within a family level itself?

      

 In our families, we can make a culture of having dinner together despite of busy schedule of the family members. It was prominent earlier in Indian families but this trend is also vanishing in the rat race.

We as an individual also have a responsibility to make sure that Our spouse, parents, siblings not feeling the same, you must aware of them. You can easily sense it because you will see the change in their pattern like eating patterns, sleeping patterns, etc.

Most people talk about keeping yourself busy in activities outside the world to combat the loneliness. But what they forget is it is a void which is actually within not in the outside world. I would suggest to stop this pattern of filling up the loneliness with the outside world. Just try to connect with yourself. For this you can choose many things You can also opt for healthy food, medication, exercise which will help us to fight with this on a hormonal level.

 Loneliness is the choice you, You can choose not to feel lonely from today itself.

Start Questioning The Rule Of Life

Everybody wants to outshine in life be it career, love life, finances, spiritual health. When we try to find out exactly whom we want to follow as a role model, we see entrepreneurs/ employees, who are doing great in their respective businesses/ job but they compromise their health. We also see people who have an incredible loving family and they have fantastic health too but they are broke. The reality is nobody wants to be in either of the above categories.

In this fast-paced life, we must stop a bit and keep asking ourselves the one critical question i.e. the things you are doing are the same which you wanted from your life or are the fulfilled expectations of the society, parents, media, etc. 

I can guarantee most of you will find what you are doing does not even belong to you. The life you are living is an imposed one. 

General rule of life of the society is you must go to school, must get a good score, must get admission to a good college, must-do job after college, must get married, must have children after few years of marriage, must have cars, etc. If you have any idea of life which is completely or minutely different from what the society thinks, you must consider your idea and respectfully refuse society’s imposed idea on you.

“The number one rule in life is to set and live up to your own standards.”

― Clyde Lee Dennis

If you have decided to follow your heart against all odds, you must burn all your boats and should be ready with 'whatever it takes' attitude. Of course, there is a risk in following your heart, especially when it is against your parents or society, because you will be going to do something which they never wanted you to do.

Conclusion:

       The gist is there are certain pre-existing rules set by the society by their convenience and understanding. We must keep in mind that there are rules which are meant to break and there are roads not to be followed. So many times, if you want to have a kind of life, exactly as per your vision, you need to question the rule of life. 

More Destructive Viruses Than CORONA

Currently the most talked about topic in the whole world is CORONA VIRUS, its vaccines, its symptoms, the number of death it has caused, the number of people infected by it in different countries, effect of it on the economy and so on. There is no doubt that it is one of the lethal viruses and its effect on our world is beyond we could have ever imagined. It has already been spread among lacs of people but it is still limited to way less than one percent of the world population.

But here I would like to draw your attention to totally different challenge or you can say a virtual virus, which we have been facing for so long which is still unnoticed by the majority of the people. i.e. 'RONA' (means 'Cry baby'  Virus) and 'KARO-NAA' (means 'Don't Do' Virus). While CORONA has affected less than one percent of the population, these two viruses have affected a huge percentage of people in the whole world

There are people who are immensely affected by RONA virus and the symptom is, whatever is happening in their life or in fact around them, and howsoever blessed they are, they will find a reason to cry over things and feeling unblessed and thinking that the whole universe is biased. They have the expertise to find what is not good in their life. Moreover, those who are critically affected by this virus have one more symptom, they will make others believe how unblessed their life is.

This world basically divided into three parts: achievers, hustlers(who are doing the things required to achieve results), and people affected by KARO-NAA Virus. The third type are the people who don't do the things required to make their dreams into reality and stop others as well to do anything for themselves. They know all the adverse effects of any action you are planning to do. They are brilliant at their skill of making people believe that why one should not do something. They are also known as the Dream Stealers.

As it is important to sanitize all your body and the things around you to keep your family and yourself safe from CORONA virus, it is equally important to sanitize yourself from the company of people who are infected by these viruses. Because if once you will be affected by these two viruses, definitely they may not only kill you but they won't leave anything left within you. They will make you hollow, unfulfilled, biased, creepy and a nitpicker for sure. If you will be affected by this virus you will definitely live a life full of regrets and frustration of not doing the things which you wanted to do.

In one sentence if you get affected by these two viruses, IT WILL MAKE YOU LIVE WITHOUT LIFE.

What is the role of focus in getting the remarkable results in any venture ?

Nowadays where everybody is using phones, computers that are multitasking, bosses in the office who are forcing us to be multitasking professionals. Somehow we reach to the conclusion that we should be good at multitasking otherwise we are worthless and due to this fictional pressure, we start doing many tasks together and most of the times we end up performing in all those assignments but with average level performance,  even in some cases we just totally ruin the work as well.

We should have a clear idea about how machines do multitasking, actually at even CPU level computers do one task at a time but they do it so fast that it seems like multitasking by naked eyes.

An idea of having a balanced life is something that asks us to believe that everything is important, yes somewhat it is true but not always. If we want to get success in something we should have only one focus apart from that all things should be secondary for us.When we chase something bigger the chances of lacking our focus is also bigger, as bigger goals ask more time to accomplish. So to be in track for bigger goal the best way is to focus on daily activities.

You will realize that till the time you were directed by your teacher, parents, or other elders you were pretty focused but problem started, when you started doing the thing by your own. Most of the time we don’t decide our activities in morning because of less focus on our goal, we start doing anything anytime which is not important. Sometimes we keep us busy the whole day in some unproductive work. Sometimes we become so much busy doing unimportant tasks that we forget to check our productivity. We should not focus on being busy else our focus on being productive.

So the question is how to decide where to focus when we have lot of things to do ?

The best way to perform any task remarkably is to focus on one thing, do it successfully and move on to the next thing focus on it do this as well successfully, and so on. That how this small success adds up and which leads to a huge success.

So to maximize our results, we must be  focused and For that firstly, we should prepare a list of work that needs to be done for our aim. Then we should scrutinize the most important activities from those of less important and then we should focus on them to magnify our results.

I hope this will help you in getting better results in your ventures.

Mother - An Epitome Of Unconditional Love.

It’s my first ever blog. As our life starts with our mother, I thought it appropriate to start with blog today i.e. on Mother’s Day.

Every now and then we have discussions about selfless and unconditional love and on this special topic, everyone has his different perspective. But if somebody has to define in the shortest form, we can easily say that Mother’s love is most selfless and unconditional love.

In this society where every relationship is transactional, some are lucky to have people around them who make them feel loved, that too, totally unconditional and selfless but almost everyone has got the chance to feel this kind of love in our life from one person and that love we get from our mothers.

She is the one, who has been non-judgmental no matter what has happened to you in your life. She is the one who sacrifices everything without any expectation in return. She lifts you up when you are low. Her blessings stay with us even beyond her life span. She is the one who understands us even when we don’t speak. She feels you even though you may be miles apart. She becomes the pillar of strength when whole world is against you. She smiles with you and cries with you. She is a true giver, an epitome of sacrificial love.You are an extension of her blood, flesh, heart and soul. Her debts can never be repaid.

She is every child’s first teacher; she is the one who makes us rationale in our lives. She empowers our wisdom by shaping our character by her own intelligence. She sacrifices almost all of her dream for us. She pays the biggest price of making us, who we are today.  She is part of our existence.

She walks before us leaving her footprints behind, so that we can follow her. Even if sometimes, out of ignorance, we argue or disagree, she never gives up on us.She wakes up first in the family to make sure that we should have proper breakfast. Even after waking up too early, she stays up till late with us without giving a second though, even when she has to wake up early again the next day.While doing so much for the family, she doesn't think about her wellness and many a times end up deteriorating her own health.

We can't choose only one day to express what she means for us. We must experience more life together, create more memories together.Although, we can't repay what she does for us in our entire life but we must attempt to do something for her daily to make her feel that we know what she is doing for us and for that, we owe everything to her.